Tuesday, 27 November 2007

I Hate Love?

Have you ever been in love? Horrible isn't it? It makes you so vulnerable. It opens your chest and it opens up your heart and it means that someone can get inside you and mess you up. You build up all these defenses, you build up a whole suit of armor, so that nothing can hurt you, then one stupid person, no different from any other stupid person, wanders into your stupid life...You give them a piece of you. They didn't ask for it. They did something dumb one day, like kiss you or smile at you, and then your life isn't your own anymore. Love takes hostages. It gets inside you. It eats you out and leaves you crying in the darkness, so simple a phrase like 'maybe we should be just friends' turns into a glass splinter working its way into your heart. It hurts. Not just in the imagination. Not just in the mind. It's a soul-hurt, a real gets-inside-you-and-rips-you-apart pain. I hate love.

~ Neil Gaiman

"Often it is the most deserving people who cannot help loving those who destroy them"
~Hermann Hesse

If love is hate-able then what's love-able?
I hate, hate.

35 comments:

Saira said...

very true ... and u also get to see it in RED on syra's blog ...;)
:D

Syra said...

beautifully depressing!
painfully killing!

MONAY said...

LOVE!!! The pre req foe stepping into this is......U MUST EXACTLY KNOW WHAT IS IT THAT U WANT..otherwise it surely is pain,hurt,and wat not.....dat can put u in deep sorrow....u need to make things clear.....

Syra said...

pre-req???????
they say you can't control who you fall in love with...it just happens..and could be the exact opposite of what you want :p
Good Luck Monay

MONAY said...

i meant.....u need to figure out at ur own end na.....at times it happens k u like more than one persons :P :P :P hehe....so wen u have choice tu figure out wat u want.....and by the way...there r two kinds of love.......
1.one which just happens....
2.and the other which u do urself

wen we r with some person...be it a frd......if u spend alot of time with him..intensionally or unintensionally.....there comes a time that something starts happening ..in ur thoughts atleast.....u deny that thought....refuse it.....decieve ur ownself....that NO ITS NOT LIKE DAT....but actually.....wo ho chuka hota hai.....that is called as a deniel state.....so....by "U MUST EXACTLY KNOW WAT IS IT THAT U WANT" , i meant u shud be clear at ur own side dat wat u want...

Saira said...

waisay i guess its always the opposite of what u want, atleast always in my case ... :S .. :)

Saira said...

fallin out of love takes longer than falling in ... but u do fall out .. and fall in with newer people in your life ... yikes !!!
>sigh<

:)

MONAY said...

“If you are traveling the road of your dreams, be committed to it. Do not leave an open door to be used as an excuse such as, ‘Well, this isn’t exactly what I wanted. ‘ Therein are contained the seeds of defeat. “Walk your path. Even if your steps have to be uncertain, even if you know that you could be doing it better. If you accept your possibilities in the present, there is no doubt that you will improve in the future. But if you deny that you have limitations, you will never be rid of them. “Confront your path with courage, and don’t be afraid of the criticism of others. And, above all, don’t allow yourself to become paralyzed by self-criticism. “God will be with you on your sleepless nights, and will dry your tears with His love. God is for the valiant.”

:P :P :P

MONAY said...

i found this exactly appropriate.....to what i meant

Saira said...

@mona ... this is why i always say that u can even fall in love with a choora ... its just a matter of what u let ur mind get positively obsessed with for the required while ... required to fall in love ... but whenever u fall for a wrong person , sooner or later u get to know that and the wronger the person the sooner u fall out of love

;)

MONAY said...

and yeah @ saira
u r right.....and wen u fall in love with the opposite of what u wanted.....here comes the deniel state into ACTION...and disaster starts.....

Saira said...

more than anything and anyone else stay comitted and honest to yourslef and things will fall in their place ... sooner or later!...
and thats better than never haan !
:)

Syra said...

I tend to believe that love comes naturally and you can't force it.It happens.

Plenty of married ppl (arranged) never fall in love with their spouses. They seek a match,a person with the qualities they want, and check on the compatibility: personal and family, par pyaar nahee hota!How scary is that!!!!

Also some married ppl (love marraige) fall out of love after shadee
Again, how scary is that!!!

On a +ve note: Plenty of married ppl do fall in love with their spouse after marriage. So Goodie Good.

teeB@ said...

True...we r stupid!!!

but this is the adventure in lyf and excitement too....still i luv love.....it just happens fortnightly hehheheeee :P

Syra said...

teeba betay, aap "crushes" kee shikar hain :p
love doesn't change fortnight

teeB@ said...

na na na......noops noops noops...

my luv therapy tells me to luv fornightly....which helps in less injuries n pain.

Saira said...

teeba ... the forghtnightly thing isnt love but btw i love it with my present richard gere !
so i hear ya !!!

:D :D :D

teeB@ said...

richard Gere or Saad Zia LOLZzzz :P

ppl say they resemble alot -ANGEL-

MONAY said...

betay...jokes apart...but sometimes crushes lead to love.....to the extent of crush..its ok...but plz....dont take it seriously....cauz fortnightly love is something really very scary....

teeB@ said...

tum log nahi samjho ge....kuch kuch hota hai...!!!

:P

intruders r everywhr...cannot say further ;)

Saira said...

monay chill dude ... do u think we are actually as naive as we are pretending to be ... :P

and teeba .. imagine every dec some crap starts ... and guess what ive got richard gere here ...
and u just spoilt the whole fun by mentioning saad zia ... if iwere to distort richard geres face ... it would end up as Saad zia !!!!!!! :P :P :P

Sana said...

well what I believe is that love is a very special feeling....and one experiences very intense unusual feelings in it...sometimes you are too happy for very lil things...and similarly u get very sad for things which do not seem big to others...so I think its worth it ;) if u have fallen for the right person...BUT Love becomes a big problem if the other person does not respect your feelings

MONAY said...

"if u have fallen for the right person"
this is what u need to find out na.....THE RIGHT PERSON.....with whom u can carry on...

Syra said...

now that's a lady in love talking ;)
may your "special feeling" be everlasting, and his too.
=)

Sana said...

yeh Finding the right person is important...but I think your luck and prayers play an important part in it :)

Saira said...

sometimes people lie and fake it too ... they fake that they respect you and lie that they love you and the time you start loving them is when u get to see their true faces ... rather when they get what they want from u or get what they were lieing for, u get to see their true faces and fakeness and by that time you are already in love BUT with someone who never existed associated to that person... and at that time the only thing you wanna do is cry your heart out!
And right there then they leave a deadly snake inside your stomach that dances up and down your stomach, fanging you with every move it makes and making you gasp every second of your life ... !!!
and you know what theres no way to stop it but to learn to become used to it !

MONAY said...

@Saira.. It takes time to become use to it..even if they do not get what they wanted...they will leave wen they feel like its of no use trying nymore...

teeB@ said...

heheheheeee......good one Saira..i feel a lil snake whose hungry :D

Isbahz said...

Havnt read yr comments guys, but my comment is:
Love Happens, and when it does, it gets you whether u want it or not, like it or not. & when it leaves, it never looks back @ you, no matter how hard you try.
Love is tempting, it is rebillious, but we all must learn to stop, even when we are in love, stop for our integrity and self respect, coz love might leave you one day, but you will never leave yrself. And when yr left with yrself, all yr gonna need is that self respect & integrity that u lost a while ago for the love that left u standing still.

Sameer said...

Very true. You only dishonor yourself otherwise.

Syra said...

@Saira: Ouch! God forbid,If and when Mr Right turns Mr Wrong be glad you got to see the true face, rather than be living with a lie all your life.
Bear the snake dance and conquer it rather than living with the snake it self.
One can only know for sure if the claimed love\care\friendship is really love during hard times in life. Look by your side. Is your love standing by you? Ya phir dar kay bhag giya\giyee.

@ Isbah & Sameer: You might leave your love someday (death) so is it justifiable that you deprive those who love you from your love?
Once, in love I don't think you can stop yourself from loving (out of the fear of losing it) when you are getting so much love back. How can you? Explain Explain =) What dishonor?

Infact, people continue to love even when they are not getting the love back.

To make it more confusing, how can you fall in love with somebody who isn't falling in love with u? =)
It ought to be from both ends.

hadi said...

i agree with isbahz.....

the eternal love is to love oneself.....

everything else ends.....n what ends is usually bad....

lov---it hurts, it betrays...

stay away from love n BE SAFE :)

Isbahz said...

@Hadi: Boundaries dont keep others out, they fence u in, & so it would be terrible thing to say that people should aspire not to fall in love anymore. Its a natural and most humanly act to follow. Just remember that there's a line that separates you from everything else in this world. Even love. & when someone tries to cross that line, you either let them, or you dont. If u let them, u risk too much, so just be sure that its worth it. If you dont, just remember that it wasnt worth U.
@Syra: Sometimes, we want something to be true just because we waited very long for it to be true, dreamed too much for it to happen, but the other person might not feel the same way. It is quite possible that u cant love someone back the way they love you. So the right thing to do is to let them go. Depriving them of yr love will not be as bad as pretending to love them back.
Plus, remember that the ones that really disserve giving up yr honor for will never ask for it in the first place.

Syra said...

IsbahStar, Very well said.I so agree to every bit of your comment above(Y)

Saira said...

" There comes a point in your life when you realize who matters, who never did, who wont any more, and who always will. So dont worry about the people from your past, there's a reason why they didnt make it to your future "

BUT

"You can close your eyes to reality but not to memories.

~Stainslaw J. Lec "

and there's a reason for that too !